The Greatest Gift is SIMPLE, but Not Easy!

This time of year is always a bit confusing for me. We gather together to give thanks for our many blessings, then jump into Back Friday & Small Business Saturday and now comes Cyber Monday where we scramble to “get what we need….” before the Christmas. We hit the mall or our favorite stores, whether it be local or online, to get the best deals of the season so we can save money on the things we may or may not remember to be grateful for by next year.

I don’t mean to sound pessimistic- though I know it sounds pretty much that way. But I’ve been reminded this year of this truth.

The greatest gift we can give is …

Today was not the day I thought I wanted!

For a few weeks now, Rennie and I had been making plans to head to Texas this Thanksgiving weekend to be with our parents. It was NOT going to be easy, we really needed to work, but our hearts longed for ‘home’- the first home we grew up in with the parents who loved us to adulthood and beyond.

But that was not to be- and for several days I have physically grieved what couldn’t be and struggled to see what was. Isn’t that how it is sometimes? We get consumed by what we don’t have and we forget to see what is right in front of us. …

This is ME! I am Her! Tribe Conference 2018

I caught myself wondering if I was ever going to grow up to be 'HER'- that woman who moved through life confident that she was who she was supposed to be.  My reason for sharing it here will make more sense at the end of this post.

I knew I was going to TRIBE CONFERENCE different than I have been in the past. I felt more ready, more eager to grab hold of what would be there for me.

Here's how the theme showed up…

The Power of Your Tribe

Do you know that feeling of being surrounded by people who are amazing and feeling like just being in their presence makes you a better person?

I do!

I have chosen to connect myself with some amazing, super people, whether it is my network of professional women I belong to - or my church or small group. I am a better person just because these people are in my life.

One of those highlights in my life is to connect with a group of creative, soul-searching writers and artists who gather at the…

Will I ever be HER?

I find myself sitting in the chair in my front room pondering what I see in my future. I want so much to feel confident; healthy, productive, grateful and graceful, beautiful. Helpful. Peaceful, HOPE full.

I want to being a strong, confident woman. I see a woman who has poise and gentleness, yet is bold and persevering.

Yet this week as I've laid on the sofa a lot, I have felt none of those.  I have felt weak, tired, messy. I've wondered if I could ever be that other woman. I've had moments of doubt, confusion and discouragement; times when I only felt desperate. How can I ever be a strong, confident woman when I keep floundering in moments of discouragement and sadness?

 But today I am taking time to ponder what I've heard this week from just listening, from forcing myself not to let my thoughts take me to despair or to deciding to quit - again for the umpteenth time, to feel like I wasn't good enough.

 Here's what I heard. …

"En" Changes Things!

…there are times we create this VISION for what we want for our family, or our career or our LIFE!

We perhaps set goals, we make plans, we study those plans and add dates to our calendar.  Then we get to work doing all of those things.  Sometimes it works.  Many times it works for a little while (think New Year's Resolutions). 

Then the urgent things of life step in and demand attention, and our STUCK places insist on becoming more bothersome with each forward step we try to take.  Our VISION soon becomes nothing more than fine words on a pretty page, or dates on a calendar. 

Ho-hum!  Not again!

Then… Ta Da! 

In soars our super-hero EN to the rescue! 

Thank you Jeff Goins!

Dear Jeff,

Last September 2017, I left the TRIBEWRITER Conference with three phrases planted solidly in my brain.

DON'T QUIT!

SHOW UP!

DON'T STARVE!

I was both undone - but mostly encouraged as you shared your story of starting not one- but #7or 8 (can't remember exactly how many) different businesses.  How it took not one, but 8 years to find the ONE THING you were committed to doing.

I was undone because …

Vision is Born in The Space Between

As you look at your LIFE's HIGHWAY, what do you see down the road? Maybe it's one year, maybe five years. 

The conversations is had this week have more to do with what's in our way rather than the destination. We will talk about the more see we go. But our purposed this week it's to talk vision. What do we see down the road?

If I were to ask you to describe how you picture your life in ten years, chances are you could paint a fairly clear picture.  You might have some idea of where you want to be financially, or you could describe what you hope to achieve professionally.  You may have some sense of the relationships you want in your life.

Andy Stanley says in his book Visioneering,

"you would be able to look beyond what is and paint a picture of what could be—and in some cases what should be—true of your life. That’s vision."

In my coaching practice, there is a dramatic difference in the people…

enVisioning Life's Highway

Without a real direction for this morning's SUMMER SHOW UP Day 3,  I ended up talking about VISION differently than I thought we would today.  

I shared an exercise I often use with my clients to help them identify where they want to go in life and how they are getting there. I used a metaphor of a LIFE HIGHWAY.  But I didn't explain it very well.  So here is a bit more information. 

Consider that you are preparing to take a trip.

Dreams, Callings and Visions...O My!

Who did you identify in the DREAM GIVER story I read yesterday?

  • Ordinary

  • The father

  • The best friend

Are you a Nobody named Ordinary with a Big DREAM? Do you remember when you first noticed that Dream? Was there something significant about that moment (like Ordinary's feather) that causes you to remember your Dream?

Or did you identify with Father somehow- you had a dream, but left it on the window sill so long that it turned to dust? 

Or maybe you are BEST FRIEND?  Someone else has shared their dream with you and you weren't sure what to do with it.  So you encouraged them to keep quiet.  "You don't want the other Nobodies to think you are a fool."

I have always connected with